3 Reasons Why You Should Stop Seeking Your Soulmate Today
Too much pressure - Hollywood movies condition us that our soulmate will make the sun brighter, the sky bluer and our lives perfect. We are taught that the arrival of our soulmate will bring us love, support and complete acceptance. We don’t realize the enormous amount of pressure we put on one person to solve all the problems in our lives.
Outward focus - The search for a soulmate is a search for something that exists outside of ourselves. We feel our completion is tied to someone else. We don’t focus on the inner work that needs to be done. Working on our unresolved issues and emotions enables us to be more whole and present to ourselves and to life. A more fully present person who meets another fully present person can have a meaningful and loving relationship.
A Passive state - The desire to find your soulmate puts us in a passive state. We are waiting to meet him or her. We are waiting for that moment when we lock eyes, hold our breath and experience the world stopping its movement and flow. We are standing still. We aren’t moving forward and living life with intention. We are wasting time.
Instead of biding your time waiting for Mr. Right or Ms. Right to show up in your life, live, make friends, go on dates, do the things that you like and enjoy, be happy, have fun, be present to who you are, work on getting to know yourself and at the same time, be open to the fact that the right person will show up when they are supposed to. This focused approach is what we call intentional dating—it's the healthiest, fastest path to finding your future spouse.