An interview regarding my book and my work

Many psychics have a specialty.  What is your specialty? I have been giving psychic readings and intuitive counseling sessions for over 18 years.  During that time, I have done readings on a variety of topics including - business goals, career goals, life purpose, past lives, etc.  To date, a large percentage of my readings focus on relationships, dating and finding the one. 

 

Your book, "The Journey to I Do", is about finding the right relationship.  Why did you write this book?   As I mentioned, most of my readings are about finding the right relationship.  During the many years I have been giving readings, I saw recurring themes popping up for my clients.  At the same time, I saw the law of attraction at work.  It became very clear to me that these themes and the law of attraction are linked together.  Once I found the connection between the two, I felt the best way to get the word out was to write a book.  While writing the book, I decided to incorporate stories from my own life.  Additionally, I decided to include some of my client's personal stories.  Their stories have been modified to maintain their anonymity.

 

The book also includes references to Hollywood.  Why?  Whether we are conscious of it or not, we are affected by the way Hollywood portrays relationships.  When we go to the movies, we are introduced to two characters.  In the early parts of the story, these characters are confronted with some type of struggle.  This struggle affects their attempt to be together.  As bystanders, we watch their journey.  We stand on the sidelines rooting for them to be together.  We are heavily invested in the outcome of their relationship.  We want them to work out their differences so they can have a happy ending.  In many cases, the characters do resolve their differences and get that happy ending.  In real life, we all want have a happy ending just like the characters on film.  I used movies because they are universal in nature and they tied into the themes I was discussing in the book.

 

What are some of the themes discussed in the book?  I talk about soul mates, type, story, baggage, cheating, mirroring, the dating merry-go-round, healing and forgiveness.  By looking at these themes and the way they have affected their lives, the reader begins to examine his or her unresolved issues.  We can heal unresolved issues by releasing old thoughts, shifting beliefs, letting go of patterns and looking at emotions and feelings that no longer serve who we are.

 

How does releasing the past help us find the partner of our dreams?  When we make peace with the past, we are clearing the way to invite someone into our lives that is in alignment with who we are.  If we do not clear out our past, we will meet people who have similar issues to ours.  If we decide not to clear out the past, we put ourselves in the position of having to work on the same issues over and over with each new partner we meet.  This will continue until these issues are resolved.  The choice to clear out the past is our own.  It is free will.

 

I know many of us have heard the term, 'law of attraction', but are not sure how it works in our lives.  Could you explain it?  The law of attraction is simple.  "Like attracts like".  I tell clients that we are magnets.  We are unconsciously attracting to ourselves the feelings, beliefs and experiences we have unresolved within us.  For example:  if you have a lot of unresolved anger, you will attract someone who also has a lot of unresolved anger.  If you have been cheated on and have not recovered from the pain, you will attract someone who has some type of pain they have not recovered from either.  This is the law of attraction at work.

 

The book is asking us to look at 'law of attraction' and these themes at the same time?  Yes.  The book takes you on a journey, an inner journey to look at these themes and the role they play in your life.  At the same time, the book asks you to begin to understand how the law of attraction works in your life.

 

Are there tools to help us on this journey?  Yes.  Each chapter is comprised of a theme that is designed to stimulate your thoughts.  At the end of each chapter, there are five questions that assist the reader in exploring his or her thoughts and feelings on this theme.  I ask that these questions be given careful consideration by journaling and/or meditating on them.  I also include a meditation at the end of each chapter.  Between the material, the questions and the meditation, the reader should come to a new place of understanding with regard to that topic.  This new understanding, this new perception changes their law of attraction.

 

Are there tools to help us on this journey?  Yes.  Each chapter is comprised of a theme that is designed to stimulate your thoughts.  At the end of each chapter, there are five questions that assist the reader in exploring his or her thoughts and feelings on this theme.  I ask that these questions be given careful consideration by journaling and/or meditating on them.  I also include a meditation at the end of each chapter.  Between the material, the questions and the meditation, the reader should come to a new place of understanding with regard to that topic.  This new understanding, this new perception changes their law of attraction.

 

Your approach seems different.  What makes it unique?  My book is asking the reader to become a 'conscious dater'.  Instead of just meeting someone and dating him or her, the book asks the reader to get clear on what they want in a relationship, what is important to them in their ideal partner and what kind of relationship they desire.  By being conscious in the approach to dating, the reader is clear on what he or she wants.  Clarity allows for the law of attraction to shift and bring the reader the partner that fits his or her desires.

 

There are many dating books on the market.  How is your book different?  I did a lot of research while writing the book.  I looked at books by competing writers.  Additionally, I looked at what these competing writers asked the reader to do.  In some instances, the reader is asked to learn numerology, cast spells or develop their intuition in order to bring in the partner of their dreams.  These are very interesting approaches, if the reader is willing to do the work the author suggests.  However, my book asks the reader to connect with their inner self and re-discover parts of themselves they may have lost contact with.  Reconnecting with themselves, rediscovering that which has been lost and healing unresolved issues, allows the reader an opportunity to change their law of attraction.  Yes, this is a book about finding the right partner; however, it is also about changing who you are in the world. 

 

Can you tell me how you came up with the name of the book?  Yes.  Finding the right partner, finding the one, find the relationship of your dreams is a journey.  Most people have to work their way through many things in order to get to that amazing place of 'I do'.  Getting to that place can be grueling and challenging or it can be seen as a journey.  When you perceive it as a journey, you can see the beautiful lessons and teachings along the way.  I would like readers to see it as a journey.

 

I love the cover.  It is beautiful.  Can you tell me anything about its design?  I had an idea in mind that I shared with the design team.  I wanted the cover to convey the journey.  Keeping that in mind, I thought about images that showed a couple walking off into the sunset or disappearing down a path together into the future.  The picture that we decided on depicts the silhouettes of a couple holding hands on a dock at the edge of the water as the sun is setting.  I loved this picture and felt it portrayed the end of the journey.  They had found each other and were now embarking on a new life together.

 

You received a wonderful review from Kirkus Reviews.  "Written in a friendly, approachable and easy-to-read style this guide is filled with spiritual thoughts as well as practical guidance from a narrator who comes across as a longtime friend and sage adviser.  A good investment for anyone wondering how to find meaningful long-lasting love."  What did you think of this reviewer's comment?  As you know, Kirkus is an independent review organization.  You do not know who reviews the book and whether they are male or female.  I am happy with the review.  The most amazing thing about the review is that the reviewer understood the book.  He or she understood the format, the themes and the message.  I love the fact that he or she liked my writing.  Additionally, he or she equated the information in the book as if they were having a conversation with a good friend or a sage.  It was a wonderful compliment to receive.  I hope the book bring lots of joy and love to many people.